If someone doesn’t agree with me, are they still nice?

Jeremiah 17: 9  The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick;
who can understand it?
Recently at work, I found out that a same sex couple (women to be specific) gave birth to a child. This defies our logic since they have no man in their life. It was then discovered that they got a sperm donor. Now the whole thing makes sense. One of the 2 ladies was the carrier obviously, and the donor signed off his rights, financial responsibilities, and his views on any upbringing of the child.
All the mentioned above is done by the couple. While I can’t say I’m completely shocked in this day and age, what I will write on in this post, is their expression in this event.
When asked about the child, whether they adopted or how they got the child, their response was “a very nice man helped us”.
Here’s the issue, nice man compared to what? You see, if the man had some issue with 2 women raising a child, and politely refused, would he still have been nice? If he was a multi millionaire, donated thousands and thousands every year to the Red Cross, or any other charitable organization and then spent every waking minute not working on the streets to help the homeless. Then helping young pregnant women find counsel, no matter what decision the make (keep it, put it up for adoption or abortion).
Let’s say his family is very well raised and respectable in that they respect others, and work hard like their father in society.
Let’s say he doesn’t even believe in God, and he does all this simply because he believes in the greater good. If an employee of his steals money from him at work, and he doesn’t prosecute the employee, but simply says, “the money you stole from me for whatever reason, is forgiven, however you will not work in the same position again. You will now work in a division where you can’t steal, and you will be supervised”.
We would all qualify this as nice, wouldn’t we? But what if he was approached and refused to donate his sperm. Would they still call him nice?
What if his life is the complete opposite? Say he’s a thief, a liar, major temper, drugs and sleeps with women every night, and doesn’t care about anyone else’s emotions. We would classify him as “not nice”, but he donates his sperm because they know him personally.
You see, being nice, is ALWAYS in relation to another person that gets what they want. I personally don’t agree with 2 people of the same sex raising a child. There have been more than enough studies showing that a child needs a father and a mother. These studies show it on a general scale, so I can’t point the finger and say all couples are the same. So please don’t think I’m saying all same sex couples are the same, they most definitely are not.
That would be like saying all heterosexual couples are perfect to raise a child. If the husband is very abusive towards his wife, I can hardly call that a great environment for a child either.
The concept might be right, however the ingredients are wrong.
The point I’m trying to make in this post, is not that this man was nice, it’s that he gave them what they wanted, the point was subjective. It was based on the relativity of their needs/wants.
I’m wondering if they would have called me nice, with the way I everyone I meet with dignity. If due to my beliefs and convictions, I would have declined should they have approached me.
Would they have insulted me, threatened to sue me based on their view of discrimination, even though them insulting my views would have also being discrimination against me.
How often do we want something, and when we get it, we give those people compliments. Because they fulfilled out desire. Whether moral or not. When our desires are satisfied, we give compliments to those that gave us access to our objectives.
However, when someone denies us that access, either when making a purchase, stopping us at a gate to an event (concert, sports event, whatever). We quickly turn to anger and hatred. Our compliments turn to insults for not letting us get what we want.
I am very much in the same boat. Though my wife tells me my temper is almost nonexistent, it does exist occasionally. I have seen myself push my weight around to get my way.
Which is why the verse above is so fitting to all of us. We’re only nice, when we get our way. When we don’t get our way, and we don’t feel like compromising, we react just like the child in the store wanting candy. The only difference is, we don’t lay on the floor pounding our fists. We resort to insults, and threats of lawsuits.
Oh how we have grown up.